Wednesday, January 1, 2020

What Happens Next?!?!

It's been two years since I've done anything. Shit!!!!! Major fucking rewind....
Let us go back to the previous post. It was 2017, life seemed to be going quite well. Actually, things were fucking amazing. I had a good acting part. I was performing all over the city. With a live band. While holding down a job. I will say that I was tired as hell some mornings. However, it was all worth it!! First off.. Hearing the compliments when we walked off the stage. Priceless!!!
While things are going smooth at work. I work in a hair salon. Who would have actually thought this? I've met some interesting individuals. I've made some great friends. Some I hope will last a lifetime. Any damn way, some stuff happens. It's now down to two managers. Thankfully, we love and support one another. That we would cover each other. Whenever, one of us had an obligation. Everything is still groovy. As far as, me performing and what not. Now it's time to promote our show that we've been working on. I receive a phone call.. A phone call you would never expect, My best friend for many years passed away. I was devastated, lost, abandoned totally fucking shellshocked!! We were just planning Labor Day weekend. We were just having a water fight!! Then you're gone. No fucking way!!! Now I gotta continue without the frack to my frick. Meanwhile, I have an event to attend. I may possibly end up speaking. So, I need to call someone. Let them know what's up. Everyone was super supportive. I was advised to stay home. I literally couldn't be in the house. Where we would get faded, play video games and just bug the hell out. So, I ended up going to the event. I cried in the house for a few hours. I needed to get out. I marched myself to the subway and headed to the event. I barely remember anything just receiving tons of hugs. The support from everyone was amazing.
Now days go by, I haven't really processed his death. I know he's up above. But I was throwing myself into work and other things. So, I wouldn't think about it. I remember some people asking me "Why am I not crying?" or saying.. "You seem to be handling this well." The best one was "For someone that was your best friend....." I'm clearly no longer friends with them. First of all, everyone grieves differently. I lost my mom at an early age. Who was my everything. I think once that happens. You process shit in another way. But you have to grieve... Shit!!! I surely did that. It was maybe the fifth day. I was getting ready to head to the parade. I went to open the door. I let out a scream and starting throwing shit. The tears came down and that was it for me. It went on for days. I stayed in bed for days. Until, It was time to go back to work. Which was no fun at all.
I'm now back at work. I'm having these emotional moments. I would cry at the front desk. I would snap at a co worker or client. I was a complete dick. I didn't know if I was coming or going. Yep! I was an asshole. It was like every little thing bothered me. If you disagreed with me, I felt attacked. It was nuts. They would ask me.. "Which Charley are we getting today?" Instead of talking to someone. I kept it bottled in. That obviously didn't work. I kinda don't like to share my problems with anyone. Oh! You'll know if I'm doing good. The emotional stuff though.. Mind your business!! I would call my two cousins. However, I couldn't keep burdening them with my problems. I'm not comfortable going to any other relatives. That's another story. So, I move into the bar next door from work. I knew the bartender from my side of town. So, I had another reason to go. He's cool as hell. Plus, I can talk to him about anything.
I'm now working six days a week. I'm at the bar six days a week. I've become Norm from the sitcom Cheers. Now people are wanting to ask my name. Oh fucking boy!! No!! I just want to drink my problems away. Go home and pass out. Then start the day over again. Looking back, it was really bad. I stopped talking to some people. I stopped performing. I was just done. I would get so trashed. I would have random outburst in public places. Some people thought it was entertaining. some weren't having it. I wish I wasn't that person. But It helped me understand. Who REALLY has your back. I was misled by a few family and friends. No hard feelings. After losing my bro. I'm like I don't want any male friends. This went on for a good while. Work, drink, sleep. I'm sure that I got off on the wrong foot with many. Some, I've become very cool with. Meanwhile... I was in a relationship. I was avoiding that too. Like.. This was the person I was in love with. Too bad that I didn't balance work and a love life properly. I got dumped dumped!!
It's now 2018.. I done had countless interventions. Like I was some fucking alcoholic. I didn't drink when I first woke up. Don't get me wrong! I totally appreciated it. It was just anytime after 3pm. An alcoholic drinks soon as they wake up. I did not do that. I'm slowly coming out of my funk. I start becoming chatty with some of the dudes at the bar. I've bonded with a dude name Danny. That has become my best friend. He's been so fucking amazing! You'll hear more about him. Now It's party time!! I'm still working six days a week. I'm in good spirits. I've even apologize to the ones that I may have affected. During my spiral out of control. It was a relief because they are really dope. I deep down enjoyed working with them. Suddenly, we are relocating. We now have to meet new people and shit. In my head.. I'm like "You're Charley and everyone likes you." But still it's a whole new ballgame when you are the new dude. It's going pretty solid. Then, my coworker leaves. Now, it's just me. I'm Mr. Nice Guy. So, I'm like saying yes to things I don't want to do. I was working about 45-60 hours a week. Still partying and bullshitting. To the point that I've lost my voice. I wasn't focusing on my actual career. Just going to work and partying. I was told that "If I wasn't partying instead of resting. My voice wouldn't be jacked." So, I'm suppose to work my ass off and not have a life?? While everyone does. Fuck That!! That's how people lose themselves and become workhorses. I'll be damn if that happens to me. But Wait... It almost did.
I meet this dude and we start hanging out a lot. We start talking about dreams, goals and shit. We have similar personalities. We are both into the same shit. Together, we are a wild pair. It was interesting. We would hang out. Have a shit ton of fun. Then lose of track of time. I started to really laugh again. Next thing you know... We develop a foundation. He's at a place where he can tell me about myself. He mentioned that I would start projects. Then abandon them. I wasn't having it at first. However, I knew that it was coming from a good place. His approach wasn't aggressive it was sincere. So, now I'm getting all tons of advice from him. He's taking me everywhere. It's dope as hell!! He picks my brain and asks about all the things that I have done. He then hits me with... "We should work on some stuff together!!" Which we've started. He then would tell me... "I need to use the word NO more often" because people will take my kindness for granted. He would take my phone if work texted me and hide it. Reminding me that I was dumped because I work too much. Telling me that "I'm too invested in everything else." When will you ever focus on the prize that is Charley? Sometimes it takes the person that you think is the hottest thing ever to help you wake up. He told me that I need to smoke more. It's helped a lot. I'm more relaxed than ever. If I get upset at work I have to go smoke. Or, put some drops into a coffee. It beats getting all emotional and having people talk shit about you. Or, throw it in your face later on. Yeah.. Shit is really mellow. However, I'll light you up if need be. It's now the beginning of 2020. Shit is looking really good. I mean as far as, looking ahead. I really enjoy saying NO. I don't work crazy hours anymore. I went from 45-60 to maybe 25-35. Let me tell you. Sanity is every thing. I lost myself for a bit. I'm gaining me back. It's an amazing feeling. I'm working on a film titled "Traffic Lane" I'm so pumped about it. I've made some amazing friends. I still have the ones from years ago. I've been to some amazing events. I'm not at the bar as much anymore. Shit!!! I've become a lightweight. I've learned not to hold grudges. Family is not everything. At least they're something. Then main supporter is yourself. Alcohol does not fix everything. It just makes you puke the next day. Not everyone is attacking you. The world is yours. Just how much of it do you want?

Tuesday, July 4, 2017

Hair Dreams and Goals

What's going on Nachos?

Yes... I know it's been a long minute. I can totally explain!! I've been working on my vocals, acting in an upcoming series and taking acting classes. This past weekend we've shot a music video. For the upcoming single "Welcome to my hood"  by ToniSteelz. For the upcoming series "Vish Merrick". We've recently performed at The Desmond's Tavern. It was a great turnout. We had a private performance at Starks Enterprises. We are the openers for their talent showcase. I'm going to do better... I promise. πŸ€— I do want to give my feedback on TLC's new album. πŸ”₯ Stay tuned for that. ✌🏽❤️ 




What I want to share with you all is my obsession with hair these days. Yes!! I love hair!!! Growing up I've had many different hairstyles. I've done the fade, gumby, flat top, box braids, cornrows... Chyle, you name it. Then in 2007, I was reaching some type of phase... I wanted to change my look. I chopped off my hair and swore never to grow it back. 



This was about 12 years ago... 
Then I did this for awhile... Excuse what I'm lighting.


Then for awhile I was like the hell with this....


Years go by and in the back of my mind.. I did think about it. But I remembered the hell that I went through to maintain it. 
Flash to 2015... I'm now working in an extension bar name RPZL. "Rapunzel" I work with another gentleman. He's growing his hair... I'm thinking πŸ’­ about. " I can't be a baldy at a blowout and extension bar." The journey began... It was absolute hell. My hair started growing in patches... 😩 Luckily, we began to carry product by Rene Futerer. It was a blessing.. I began doing the treatments. My hair has grown thicker and healthy. 





Now... I want to toy around with my hair. Adding extensions, safely coloring it... Thinking hair chalk. Here are some that I've been looking at....











⬆️ This one I like most. ⬆️









Thankfully, I work in a salon. Thankfully, I'm a performer. So, I'm about to have some fun with my hair. These are fun and inspiring..... 
















⬆️ Here I Go ⬆️ πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ 

Any tips... Ideas... Shoot me a comment. 

That's it for now... Peace ✌🏽 Love ❤️ and Say your prayers πŸ™πŸ½ 

Remember, you are awesome!!! 

Thursday, June 1, 2017

In control!! Grabbing life by the balls!!

What's up, Nachos? πŸ€”πŸ€— 

 

Life has been quite amazing these past few months. I'm thankful for those that have inspired me. Those that allowed me to be me. Those that have pushed, believed and never gave up. I sit and think πŸ’­ "Oh Shit!! I'm actually doing everything that I was scared to do!" Don't get me wrong... I'm scared shitless!! 😲 However, my confidence level is going up. I mean when you're seeing how many people view your posts. Actually leaving positive comments. Along with seeing yourself in acting mode. I was once told that I'm the most overconfident and under confident anyone has ever met. It's an agreement. 😩

 
 

This summer we have tons of shows coming up. This is going to be lit!! Aside from filming an upcoming series. It's still unreal as I blog this. Yep!! This is my life and I am truly grateful, blessed, thankful and humbled. 
Let me tell y'all a little something about it.......
Being part of such an amazing project with great writers, production and cast members. Is truly a good thing. I'm not going to spill too much. You just have to follow the instructions. Go to @vishmerricktvshow on instagram click the link in the bio. I will say that I'm in love with my character. His name is "Cutty". He's kind of a smart ass, that is into his hair more than anything. Word on the street is that he's dangerous... 😲 

 

Looks like trouble for Cutty. It's amazing that the three of us are acting and performing together. We are on a whole new level with what we do. 


Three the hard way. 
I'm learning so much about becoming an entertainer. Also, what comes along with it. I didn't realize how folks disappear when you start doing something you actually love. I was recently on the phone with a few people. I started telling them about what's going on. Only to get a "I'll call you back!" I'm still waiting on that call. Or, when you mention to relatives and they change the subject. It's cool... I'm good. I can't worry about it. I'll still support when I can. They claim it's you... Ummm, No. However, trust and believe I'm not mad or upset about it. It's just like... "Damn, You think that folks would be proud and want to promote, celebrate and support each other." It's cool! You can't let it stop you from pursuing a dream. You just have to keep going. They just won't be there. Shout out to my best friend, Nico. He's been yelling at me for years. To stop playing and pursue my dream. Telling me it's not too late and not to give up. I try to do the same for him. He's a dancer and is really dope!! 

 

I do have some great people behind me that cheer me on. If they can't make a show. They'll at least send a gift. Make that phone call. Or, even plan something nice. 

 

It was really awesome that my family came and showed support. ❤️❤️❤️

 

Family that calls and check on you. They make sure that I'm eating and not going crazy. πŸ˜‚ That actually cares about what you are doing. ⬆️

This is really all I need. I do have a lot of folks to thank. Besides the people in photos above. Andre, Josiesboy, Stephen Spruill, Mario, Rachel Love, Roberta Hill, My Sister Toni, Frances Burke, Monica and Lisa, The Vargas family, Malik Williams and Nicholas Ryan Gant. 
So... I'm enjoying the fact that I'm fully in control of my life. Making my own decisions. Living for me!! Doing what I enjoy. Like I said.. Life is awesome and I'm grabbing it by the balls!! 

Anywho, I'm about to get me something to eat. Which I need to start eating healthier. Send me some vegan recipes.... Don't forget to click that link!!! 

 

The many moods of Chazz Anthoney Cabrera. πŸ•ΊπŸ½πŸŽ¬πŸŽ€  Don't worry.. They're all cool. πŸ€—

I'll just call for backup!! ⬆️ Seriously, though. Check out the trailer and teaser. It's on YouTube as well. 

It's been real!! Be good, Live for you and say your prayers!!

✌🏽❤️

Tuesday, May 23, 2017

The heard our Cry... Xscape is back!!

Nachos!!! It's finally happened!!!

Xscape is back together!!! 

 

As a teenager in the 90s. I had Super Mario Brothers, Baseball and Good Music. Personally, it was the best era ever. As far as, music is concerned. We had some of the best artists!! Most of them were groups. Back then you had to actually have talent to even get a record deal. These four ladies definitely had talent. In 1993 we had En Vogue, TLC and SWV to name a few. They were super duper dope!! Amazing videos, concerts, posters you name it!! Then suddenly this group of young ladies name Xscape comes out. I remember seeing "Just Kickin' It" on Video Soul. Immediately I thought Kandi was the bomb!! I remember purchasing the Maxi-Single from The Wiz. You can clearly tell this was definitely the 90s. With what I previously mentioned. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚  They had a string of hits. They were everywhere!! Eventually, I had posters of them on my wall. 

 

This album I literally had to buy over and over again. Due to having a cassette player. 😲 πŸ˜‚ Chyle... Then suddenly all of them were my favorite. My cousin Cassandra use to say that Latocha was her cousin. Lol!! Because the favor a bit... Anyway, back then magazines kept us informed. As well as, the disc jockeys. It was like... "When is the new album dropping?

 

Okay... When this album came out. I understood everything they were singing about. And related to it. When "Feels So Good" came out.. That song was so damn lit!!! That single was another buy multiple times.  I had purchased a new stereo with 5 disc changer plus cassette decks. You couldn't tell me nothing!! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ I had that album on repeat. I liked that the videos had a sequence. Chyle... We were all mad at Zeebo. 😑 Their swag was dope!! I was feeling Kandi's hair on that one. Years ago by and then....


This had to be my favorite album!! Actually, it is!! πŸ™ŒπŸ½πŸ™ŒπŸ½  "The Arms Of The One Who Loves You" will always be a favorite. Along, with "All I Need", "One Of Those Love Songs" etc... I remember hearing, "Softest Place On Earth" on the radio. Then after the song played. Dude announced that they've broken up. Wtf?

 

I'm thinking... "This is the album that will shut everyone down" 😒 Already, we've gotten wind of SWV breaking up months before. En Vogue was now a trio. I'm like it's all over.... Please, TLC don't break up. It's now 2017... I've seen an episode of Unsung. It featured Xscape.. Finally, we got to see and hear. What went down. However, it didn't seem like they would ever reunite. I'm going to be honest as a fan. I do remember when the came out with a song and new number. I was like, "Nope!!!"  I got to see Kandi and Tiny on reality television. The Scott sisters were in plays. But they weren't together. Months past and Kandi is live on Facebook. It's Xscape!! Saying that they are reunited!! Look at God!! πŸ™πŸ½ They sound great rehearsing for their upcoming show. Hopefully, they'll get the props that they deserve!! It's long overdue!!! Welcome back ladies!!! I've missed y'all!!!


Until then... Be kind, Remain Awesome, Live for you and Love yourself!!! 

Romper... RompHim... Romp huh???

Nachos, We have a situation here!! πŸ€”

 
The past few weeks there has been a stir. Dudes sporting rompers. At first I thought. "Why?". πŸ€”πŸ€¦πŸ½‍♂️ What is going on? Clearly, when I think of a Romper. I think of this.
 

Now, I'm all for expressing ourselves. Also, I posted a weeks back about not having a problem wearing a kilt. That' Romper was what I had in mind. Then my friend Tony "Josiesboy". Who has a weekly podcast every week. Titled, " Call me when it's over.." was discussing fashion. He hit the subject about Rompers. Him and I both worked in the same retail store way back. When it was Romper season. We saw this:
 
 

Again... That is what came to mind. He voiced his opinion. I kinda agreed with him. I pretty much can say that I'm not too much of a fan of the Male Romper aka RompHim. If you like it. That's your choice... I'm still going to hang with you if you wear one. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚  I've seen a few and I will say you definitely need to have the body for one. 

 
 

   

 
These are some that I've seen. These are not for me!! I'm not going to try to pull it off. Maybe it will work for you!! Some can be quite revealing. I don't want my print to be a discussion. Hmmmm πŸ€” It's the thing that's happening at the moment. I'm too skinny to sport one that short anyway. I did see some pretty cool ones. If I jumped into a RompHim. 

 

This one is actually my favorite. It doesn't give a feminine tease, either. If I did... I would totally wear this. 

 
 

Here's some other ones I though were rather dope!!

 

I fancy this one, as well. So, overall I think I'm here for the ones that I like. Who knows??? I may wear one. I doubt it! But you'll never know... πŸ€”

Stay tuned!!! Dudes are walking around with their asses out!!! Without any underwear. I smell something funny... 

 

Until next time... Stay Dope!!! Say your prayers!! Live the dream!!